Take a recent statistic like this for example: did you know that a whopping 88% of all single gay men are actively searching for a romantic partner?That means there are more of you who are commitment-minded than who aren’t. The solution to that is less complicated than you might think too, and mostly it has to do with not being afraid to break out of your social circle and meet new people, not with anything that’s specifically “wrong” or “lacking” about you.
We can all relate to all those Taylor Swift songs about super intense short relationships.
And while perhaps a gay single might go about finding a partner differently than someone who is straight, the ultimate outcome is the same.
Given that, my first bit of advice is for everyone, no matter which side of the plate they swing from: Don’t Overcomplicate Things!
Here, the advice IS coming from actual experts and in this case, six bona fide therapists! Ditch the long laundry list written by everyone else, but you! When getting to know someone in a new relationship, they want to know who you are today not how you were in a past relationship or lifetime.
DO talk about yourself as who you are today in the present and the values and goals you have for yourself in the future. DON'T monopolize the conversation or make yourself the highlight real, no one healthy or worthwhile being in a relationship with is interested in getting into a coupleship with a narcissist.